On Jul 10, 10:29?am, (XXX) wrote:
bobandcarole wrote:
He displays a fascination

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More hater lies.

We're ALL "haters" freak. Get used to it.


~~~~~~~~~~~~~Pedophile Characteristics~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~



He displays a fascination or unusual interest in children. If an
adult
has an inordinate amount of interest in pre-pubescent children, it
doesn't confirm he is a pedophile, but it should at least arouse
suspicion.
He makes frequent references to children in exalted or exaggerated
terms such as "pure," "innocent," "God sent," "blissful" and other
descriptive labels that seem inappropriate and excessive. Remember
that a pedophile cannot help the way he behaves and therefore will
inadvertently reveal aspects about himself during speech.
He has hobbies or interests that commonly belong in the realm of a
child's world such as toy collecting, building models of cars or
planes. His home or room is decorated in a child's theme. And often,
that theme will reflect the age bracket of his preferred victim.
He is over 30 years of age, single and has few or no friends his own
age. He may also have frequent and unexplained changes of residence.
He may be unable or unwilling to discuss why he lost his last job. He
may have a military discharge that he cannot explain and a past that
he can not easily talk about.
He has systematic and prolonged access to children. Pedophiles,
because of the wide age disparity between themselves and their
victims, cannot just hang around children. The pedophile has to find
a
way to legitimize his contact with kids. He usually accomplishes this
by obtaining employment in a field where he is forced to deal with
children on a daily basis. Jobs like schoolteachers, bus drivers,
camp
counselors, photographers and sports coaching(14) serve their needs
perfectly. They will always volunteer for activities in which they
are
left alone with children with no parental supervision (Lanning, p.
19).
Pedophiles are also very adept at locating troubled or withdrawn
children. This is a skill they have acquired through years of trial
and error. They have come to identify what usually works and what
usually doesn't. The most common technique used by pedophiles to
obtain sex from children is the seduction method. This process is
very
similar to the classic boy/girl courtship. Though the child might be
under 10-years-old, the pedophile will lavish gifts upon the target,
take him or her to amusement parks, museums, restaurants and other
places of interest. This author recalls a case in which a pedophile
attempted to seduce a child who had an interest in music. The suspect
escorted the boy to expensive Broadway plays like Phantom of the
Opera and Miss Saigon. Afterwards, they ate in fashionable Manhattan
cafes and went sightseeing. The child was just 8- years-old. In
another recent case, reported by the New York Times (February 2,
2000), a Bronx man lured neighborhood children to his apartment with
Pokemon cards and Chinese food. He then abused a number of children
after giving them marijuana and screening pornographic videos. The
abused children later got together and attempted to set fire to the
suspect's apartment.

If the target is a troubled child, the pedophile will comfort and
sympathize with him or her. Often, over a period of time, the child
will develop feelings for the offender even though he is being
actively abused. The dynamics at work in this type of situation are
well known to psychologists. This process of sympathizing with the
offender has been called Stockholm Syndrome. It was first recognized
in 1973 after a notorious bank robbery in Sweden in which the
hostages
taken by the suspects began to develop feelings of attachment toward
their captors(15). Children who are sexually victimized can feel the
same way. This is often the case when the offender happens to be a
member of the clergy or another traditional figure of trust. In early
2002, an elementary school bus driver pleaded guilty in Westchester
County Court, New York, to abusing 9-year-old children on his bus
during the trip home each day. The abuse may have gone on for as long
as 15 years with a succession of students. In cases such as this, the
events will not be reported because of the emotional attachment
between offender and victim. Remember that pedophiles are masters in
the manipulation of children. However, as the victim matures into
adulthood, these benevolent feelings toward the abuser often
dissipate
and the painful truth of the abuse sets in.


In February and March 2002, there were dozens of such cases involving
adult men who were sexually molested as children by Catholic priests.
These sexual assaults, some of which occurred decades before, are sad
testimony to the compulsions of some pedophiles who will molest
children for their entire lives until the day they are caught. These
revelations, and the startling accusations of systematic cover-up by
church officials, have shaken the Catholic Church to its core. New
York's Cardinal Edward Egan received a firestorm of criticism from
the public when it was revealed he treated sexual molestation
charges
against priests with questionable tactics toward the victims in
Bridgeport, Connecticut.


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(14) Sports Illustrated produced a cover story on this subject in
their issue of September 13, 1999 entitled "Who's Coaching Your
Kid?.